Monday, November 26, 2012

The Red Kinds of Love

Taylor Swift has written many love songs. Her biggest hit, 'Love Story' is beautiful and romantic. 'Our Song' is a sweet tune she wrote for her high school talent show. 'Mine' is a lovely song in which she imagines the kind of love she would like to have.
 In her new album, her songs really don't seem to fit together. At one point, she says, "Love is a ruthless game/Unless you play it good and right." But before she said that, in the same song, she mentions sleeping with her boyfriend. Why? Because she's going by her standards.
'Red' describes a crazy, sad, confusing and well.... red relationship, (if that can be used as an adjective) in metaphors and similes. "Loving him was like driving a new Maserati down a dead end street," she begins. Aren't all her songs about dead ends? "Faster than the wind, passionate as sin/Ended so suddenly.... Like the colors of autumn so bright just before they lose it all."
Of course.
"Losing him was blue like I never know/Missing him was dark gray all alone/Forgetting him was like trying to know somebody you never met/But loving was red."
What does she mean by red?
 The relationship she is describing is physical. "Touching him was like realizing all you ever wanted was right there in front of you... Memories of him come in flash backs/And echos/Tell myself it's time now/Gotten let go/But moving on from him is impossible/When I still see it all in my head/Burning red."
The relationship that you can remember the most real relationships most are the extreme ones, the ones that include sex.

Well, it's pretty clear now that Taylor is not afraid to have a 'dangerous' relationship even to the point of sex. Sex is a gift from God, but since the world has twisted it, it now looks so cool, in a bad way.
The most terrible and dangerous thing about sinful sex is that it's such a lie in disguise. When you're in the middle of it, you're so caught up in such a terrible lie that you forget everything you've learned. It seems so beautiful, yet terrible. It seems so lovely, yet extreme. It's so daring... and deadly because once it's over it's over. You've lost something you can never take back, something so precious and important.
Oh, someone might say, "Well, I can still get married even though I  lost my purity."
One day, I asked Dad what's wrong with kissing your boyfriend. He told me, in his experiences, that when he kisses my mom, even now he remembers when he kissed somebody else, and it ruins the joyful experience.
Same thing applies with sex.
But, Taylor's relationship are unpredictable and I'm not really sure if she has learned from her mistakes. In a interview just today, she talked about some advice that she got from her brother. She asked him what she should do, referring to a relationship with many options. What he said was: "Well, what do you want to do? Do that. Do what you want to do because this is a matter of love, and there are absolutely no rules when it comes to love. Do what you want to do." She says that was the most liberating piece of advice she'd ever gotten. Later, she says, in reference to love, "You don't know what's going to happen, so you have do what you feel like doing. It's like going with your gut." The interviewers replied, "But it's hard because you're putting your heart on the line."
She replies, "What I've learning from song writing is that if something made me feel deeply, it was worth it."
In another interview, Swift admits that she has never been in love because it has never lasted. In 'Fifteen' she sings, "Don't forget to look before you fall." Even though that is good advice, she doesn't take it. She says,
“I don’t think it through, really, which is a good thing and a bad thing. You don’t look before you leap, which is like, ‘Yay, this is awesome! Let’s not think twice!’ And then you’re like, ‘We used to be flying. Now we’re falling. What’s happening?’”
With Taylor, love is dangerous, unpredictable, reckless game which has no rules. But again, Swift is not a Christian. She is playing 'the love game' by her own standards, which as I've seen, has only led to destruction.
"My experiences in love have taught me difficult lessons, especially my experiences with crazy love. The red relationships. The ones that went from zero to a hundred miles per hour and then hit a wall and exploded. And it was awful. And ridiculous. And desperate. And thrilling. And when the dust settled, it was something I'd never take back. Because there is something to be said for being young and needing someone so badly, you jump in head first without looking," she says, referring to her new album.
That's the problem with love. We, girls, need it so bad that it just blinds us. Sometimes you can get so caught up in love game that you're totally clueless of the truth.
Something tells Taylor's going through that right now.
“I’m scared of this whole thing backfiring,” she says. “Or chewing me up and spitting me out, and all of a sudden, I don’t love it anymore."
Well, the thing I've learned from Taylor's endless game is well.... don't go with your gut. Go with God. Love never fails, if it's God's love, which is true and everlasting. So, I ask you, whose standards do you want to by? God's? who BTW, is the creator of love. Or your own?
 


1 comment:

  1. That's really good!! Go by God's Standards!!!!!!

    Anna:)

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